This is more of a wake-up call.
One thing that I think people don’t seem to understand is their own individual happiness. I see people stressing out over making other people happy or hanging out with people that make them feel like complete crap, be that friends or significant other. And… As terrible as it is for me to say this, I don’t think anyone should spend all their time doing that.
It’s a reality check. If you’re alive (you are) and you’re dating some douche bag that is constantly giving you crap for who you are, then for fuck sake, break up with them. Your happiness should be your number one priority. If it’s your friends, your family, your significant other, as sad as it is, if they don’t make you happy. They really aren’t worth your time.
Now you might be going on about having a love-hate relationship. They make you feel like crap sometimes and other times they’re your best friends. Well, I can’t just tell you that you shouldn’t hang out with them anymore. Losing people in life sucks, I know, but sometimes it’s for the better. Sometimes you need to understand what’s making you happy.
One thing that I remember learning from a book I read was that you should make a list of the five people you hang out with the most. Once you got that list, take a look at it and realize that they are your future and they are gonna dictate who you are a lot. Think about the people that you just wrote down and ask yourself if you really want to be like them?
And I think the hardest part about this way of thinking is thinking about your future. There are a lot of factors, probably to many too list, that affect who you will be and what you will do. Sadly, I can’t just tell you who to be when that’s both unethical and I would be a douchebag for it. But what I can tell you is think of who you really are. Think of all the little things that make you, you and then imagine the life you want in the future. Do you want to be affected years after that asshole broke-up with you? Or let that many times you smoked because your friend pushed you into it affect your life? And even if it’s not things to that level, like if your group of pals call crap on one another as a joke, but you take yours rather personal. Sometimes you need to decide when to take action in those case scenarios. There is no reason why you should suffer. As a human being, it is your duty to be happy! Sometimes you gotta make hard decisions on whether or not you truly want to be happy. It sucks to the largest degree… but… take it from me. Those who don’t make you happy are nothing more than a bag of weights you have to carry on your shoulders for forever.
“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone”- Robin Williams